Monday, December 31, 2012

Disappointed!

Remember the scene from A Fish Called Wanda when Kevin Kline's character screams, "Disappointed!"? I felt the same way this morning, not because I didn't find jewels in the safe, but because I read a blog entry about Torii Hunter's stance on homosexual ball players.
 
I always liked Torii Hunter, especially when he played for Minnesota. He's a solid fielder, an even better hitter, and, let's face it, he has a killer smile. That said, reading about his discomfort at the prospect of playing with a homosexual teammate caused me some disappointment. Is he really using the Christianity defense for his intolerance? Please. My understanding of abiding by Christianity is emulating the selfless, kind works of Christ. Then again, I'm a lapsed Catholic, so what do I know?
 
The religious rants of athletes annoy me. I'm sorry, but they do. Josh Hamilton's phony fervor and so-called rededication to Christ are such a farce. Now that he is "second," he feels his crack smoking, adulterous days are forgiven. While it's true that gone are the days of liquor-swilling, womanizing, cigar-puffing baseball players who couldn't physically represent athletes if they tried, we instead have the same hedonistic players who lean toward pleasurable lifestyles but then excuse such scandalized behavior by claiming they strayed from religion. They use their faith as a platform for improving themselves. Why can't they just admit they succumbed to financial gain and focus on their work on the field, instead of filling press conference time with vapid atonement and religious oratory? It all seems so artificial.
 
I digress, as usual. Back to Mr. Hunter. Why would the presence of a gay teammate make another player uncomfortable? Do straight men flatter themselves into believing gay men would make passes at them in any circumstance? Why is it acceptable for heterosexuals to make passes at each other in public, but unacceptable for homosexuals to do so? Why does it matter? Please don't give me the biblical literalism approach to your explanation. I can't have that.
 
Oh, Mr. Hunter. Your dazzling smile won't charm yourself out of this mess.

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Swimming/Individuality/Solitude

I feel like being in the vastness, emptiness, and quiet of the ocean right now.  Nothing sounds more appealing.  I wrote the following in my senior year of high school:

I should have been a swimmer. To feel the caress of the liquid glass of blue, to be immersed in a different world of crystal azure and aquatic refreshment--these are the things I long for now. Resigning a possible position on the swim team of a high school I once attended floods me with guilt now. To be a swimmer was, at one point, an escape from the auditory aspects of the outside world and an entrance into calm, serenity, and tranquility.

The state one adopts while preparing to swim, I feel, can bring him or her to these peaceful states. As I focused on my initial leap into the water, I easily tuned out the echoing chants of spectators, mainly composed of parents, in the humid, steamy natatorium. Expanding muscular cavities deep in my chest brought me to a focused peace while the tracing of the long, black Ts on the floor of the pool mesmerized me, once submerged. Afterwards, the feeling of accomplishment, which could have constituted simply reaching the opposite end of the pool, overpowered the sensations of burning in my eyes and tightness of my skin.

Swimming, although competitive, differs from other sports, for each competitor has the right to silence and protection of his or her territory. Splashing and panting are the means of communication used, and a swimmer may be left alone to do his or her work an individual, private lane.

The rush of water between my fingertips propelled me as I systematically turned my head to the outer world for a supply of air. Ankles bound by an invisible force controlled the acceleration I experienced. My goal while crawling through the water was the glory of the finish--the reach made by extending my fingertips to a concrete finish line. Achieving the goal was great, but the process of doing so was better. I relished in the state of my escape from an outside world of noise and interaction. I loved the freedom the water granted me. I felt as if I could sail through waters that brought me to a new world.

Saturday, December 22, 2012

I want some adobo (a tribute to my sister-in-law)

I often tell myself the reason my eyes are green is the tremendous amount of jealousy I have of others.  This is not a desirable trait and speaks to a certain level of immaturity, but I am still guilty of it.

Someone I admire greatly is my sister-in-law, Olivia.  She is immensely talented, funny, generous, polite, and caring.  She's also gorgeous and makes bangin' adobo.*

I suppose I envy Olivia because we're just six weeks apart, but she seems to have accomplished so much more than I have.  She owns a business, receives rave reviews for her theatrical performances, has a beautiful singing voice, and did I mention the adobo?  My brother never goes hungry.

Envying Olivia is silly because she's not pretentious about her talents.  She is humble and lovely.  She and I get along famously, especially because we share similar interests.  We took a dance class together and would more than replenish the burnt calories by swapping Sonic cream pie shakes while driving back home.  We had a blast planning Patrick's surprise 26th birthday party (pub MIX!), and we always feel comfortable around each other, whether it's drinking tea (PG Tips!) or choreographing goofy Janet Jackson dance numbers.  She has given me tough love with her relationship advice but also comfort when she opened the door to her home to me as I was in between apartment rentals.

Olivia has been the sister I never had.  She is the one who encouraged me to start this blog in order for me to keep writing after journalism school.  I'm grateful to have someone as wonderful as she is in my life.  I love you, Liv!




*Adobo (Filipino: "marinade," "sauce" or "seasoning") is the name of a popular dish and cooking process in Philippine cuisine that involves meat, seafood, or vegetables marinated in a sauce of vinegar and garlic, browned in oil, and simmered in the marinade. It has sometimes been considered as the unofficial national dish of the Philippines.[1]   (Source:  Wikipedia)

Friday, December 21, 2012

Can't Escape the Maroon

As Texas is such a hugely populated state, I expect to meet a lot of Texas A&M alumni.  I expect another large percentage to consist of University of Texas alumni.  Throw in some Texas Tech Red Raiders, and you pretty much have the population of the Dallas/Fort Worth metroplex.  Still, I'm surprised to meet as many Aggies as I do all the way up here in north Texas.  I incorrectly assumed this was Longhorn country (I don't even consider the SMU people).

When you meet an Aggie, you're not gracefully introduced.  You collide with the person, head first.  You're inundated by spirit, pride, and borderline obnoxiousness.  Trust me.  I lived with one for more than a year.  He-Who-Should-Not-Be-Named served our meals on maroon plates, wouldn't allow me to call UT by that acronym (I was expected to say "TU"), drove a maroon SUV, and took vacations to College Station.  He fulfilled his dream of graduating from A&M, and he deserves respect for that.  However, his maroon rantings drove me to insanity.

Now, I work in an office filled with Aggies.  The company owner is an Aggie, but he's a great guy.  He's 79 years old and still comes to the office every day.  His daughter and her husband, both Aggies, oversee operations and strive to win contracts from the university for work.  The president of the company recently named his new puppy "Heisman."  Is he a die hard fan?  You make the call.

Why am I so dour about A&M?  It is a great university.  I suppose I associate it with the one who broke my heart multiple times and jaded me beyond belief.  Does jaded blood turn from red to maroon?  Possibly.

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Todo sobre mi madre

A while back, I posted a list of my favorite things (how narcissistic!).  As I listen to some Sade, I feel compelled to list some of my mom's favorite things as she greatly influenced my tastes.

1.  Sade (obviously)
2.  Boston Red Sox (also obvious, if you knew her)
3.  UConn men's basketball
4.  cooking (she was great at this)
5.  baking (she was even better at this)
6.  Bill Murray
7.  New England in the fall
8.  Jameson Irish whiskey (on the rare occasion that she drank alcohol)
9.  Indian food
10. Thai food
11.  her best friend and sister, Pat
12.  the color pink
13.  needlepoint
14.  "Dancing with the Stars"
15.  Shakespeare
16.  Colin Firth
17.  politics
18.  the St. Joseph Indian School charitable foundation
19.  learning
20.  being a teacher--she was a fabulous teacher and the best one I ever had

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

"Thinking more about American Indians in the media"

I wrote this blog post in my last semester of graduate school.  A interview with Sherman Alexie in Time prompted me to reconsider this topic, although it is something I should ponder on a more frequent basis.

As I've given more thought to my final project, I have considered the presence or absence of American Indians from the media. Media professionals sometimes tread lightly over this terrain, but I think they need to delve into it more deeply. American Indians, or Native Americans (the debate continues over which term to use), deserve treatment just as any other ethnic group does. Despite the fact that they are outnumbered, they still exist and, tribe by tribe, contribute richly to our American culture.

I follow a sports blog called
www.survivinggrady.com. In one post, one of the authors mentioned Red Sox outfielder Jacoby Ellsbury's interview in an issue of Men's Vogue. I immediately clicked the link to read the article. Of course, the first paragraph mentions Ellsbury's Navajo heritage. While it is of note that Ellsbury is the first Navajo player in the major leagues, I still wonder why that facet of his background draws the most attention. Doesn't his athletic prowess trump everything when it comes to lauding him as a member of the team? If Ellsbury were white, would the writer have drawn attention to that? I doubt it.

This presents my struggle with the topic of American Indian presence/absence from the media. While I assert that they deserve equal treatment, I also do not want them to be exploited. I suppose exploitation manifests itself as the ultimate evil of some forms of journalism. Not everyone believes the media are objective in their methods.